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Anonymous asked: So... There's a guy. We were together on a trip, and i was feeling sad. He hugged me and he said that i could count on him, tell him everything, he would hug me when i want, he was my friend and he said "I mean it, really". I was suprised, because i thought he is fellingless person, he doesn't care about anything and anyone. We have never been close, we were just classmates. I noticed he changed a lot lately but that was... weird. So we were alone in his room, he hugged me, comfort me, complement me, talk to me. He NEVER does that! Another classmate, his friend told him he liked me, and later he didnt, and he said to him "You need to decide, she is sensitive" That's what my spy said :). I dont know what to think. Lately, he is staring at me a lot, and a few moths ago, he told my friend he liked me. He has formspring(that's sth, where you can ask questions) and there were questions about the prettiest legs, ass and style. He answered that i have the prettiest legs, ass and style, and that i am a 'top model'. What should i do? Should i trust him? Does he really want to be friends or maybe sth more?


Answer:

I thinkk you should give it a goo :) If you like him and it appears he likes you there is nothing to lose :) You might aswell try it out and see what happens! Just be careful! Guys are never easyy and you can get hurt! So look after yourself! Why don’t you talk to him about it? xx

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— 3 years ago
Anonymous asked: I'm trying not to cut, I'm really trying! For everyone else around me, but the truth is I don't know if it's what I want. I don't know whether I really want to stop! It's the only thing that makes me feel a release! And I deserve the pain and ugly scars.. but I live my life wanting others to be proud of me, and when I couldn't lose enough weight to be perfect to them all I cut. But now if I stop cutting I feel theyll all be so proudd, and I may start to be perfect again! But its for them. Just them and not for me, and that scares me! I know it won't ever work or last if i'm doing it for other people. Im sorry I don't really know what im even asking here but I havent said this to anyone and I just needed to get it off my chest! I don't know what to do! While im cut free for so many days im making them proud, but when I relapse which I know I will, im just ruining everything and making them more disappointed than they ever were to begin with!


Answer:

Don’t do it for others do it for yourself, do you really want to be cutting for the rest of your life? becasue i dont think you do. People will always be proud of you, i am SOO proud of you, becasue you are trying! Thats such an amazing start. Strive to make people proud of you for something you do, not something you don’t do. Put all of this into something positive, find another coping method. Its normal to get hit with guilt and upset when you relapse, but relapse are part of recovary, if you get past that it shows you can fight it, you can beat this! :) We believe it you. Don’t dwell on bad things, strive towards the good, and turn your life around for the better. You can do this, we know you can <3

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— 3 years ago
Anonymous asked: i want to die.


Answer:

Think, why do you want to die? Is that reason worth it?

How would the people you left behind feel? what would it be like if you were in there position? How would you feel?

Think about all the things you would miss out of, having a family getting ajob, becoming a grandmother/grandfather

Think about the person that would have to find you!

Please stay strong, we are always here for you, you can beat this! it will be ok! Take care and look after yourself!

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— 3 years ago
Anonymous asked: I just wanted to ask you something, I've been feeling REALLY horrible about myself lately. I changed schools, i don't have any close friends anymore. I feel like crying all the time. I've gained like 20 pounds because of all of this. I take adderall when i don't need to just to feel happy for one hour or so. I've stopped doing fun things and talking to guys. I don't know why i feel like this and its horrible. I don't know what to do anymore. advice, I came to you because i have noone else to go to.


Answer:

Im so sorry you feel like this, no one deserves too! If it is due to a change in school that you cant make friends you could try join some of the school clubs or some school activity in order to make friends and meet new people! Please dont worry about the weight gain, this doesnt define you or mean anything! You are beautiful no matter what you werigh and what you look like! If you dont need the adderall i wouldnt suggest taking it as this may just make you worse if not adviced and constant use! We are always here for you if you ever need to talk!! We are on here and on our personal blogs if you would rather talk to someone more personally! Our personal blogs are on a page of the blog! I hope things get better soon!! xx

— 3 years ago
Anonymous asked: i find things hard to cope with right now, i havent really had a straight forward childhood and i have got to the stage where i scratch myself so much i break the skin and basically cut myself.. i just cant help it and i dont know what to do with myselfff.


Answer:

Try talking things through with somebody. Although you may not think it talking things through with somebody can really help lift a weight off of your chest. Even if its just a friend it is a start :) Bottling it up will get you nowhere, you need to let it all out, deal with it and get on with the future. As for the self harm, there are things you can try like snapping an elastic band to your wrist or squeezing an ice cube. A better idea would be to try channel that energy and frustration into something worthwhile. Find a distraction, get a stress ball, have a cold shower or go for a run :) Someething along those lines. Take care and i hope things get better for you.

— 3 years ago
Anonymous asked: i'm wearing glasses, but i dont want to wear it. I asked my mum about contacts, and she said no ! What can i do to convince her ?


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As a glasses wearer myself I have had this same issue, it does really depend on your age and the reasons behind your mum saying no! Start by explaining to her how wearing glasses makes you feel! If they make you feel like shit tell her this, she wont want you to feel anything less than beautiful even though the glasses dont change your beauty! Tell her how responsible you are, and how youll look after them and only wear them for short times! I actually started with dailies a few days a month when going to partys or special occsasions and once my mum had seen how i loved them i worked on her from there so you could try that? hope you get them xx

— 3 years ago
Anonymous asked: i recently went through a very hard time in my life, for no particular reason, i hadnt lost any body or anything like that, infact everything was the same really except that my friends were having some really hard times and i was arguing a lot with my mum who works as an air hostess so she goes away a lot and always has. but i just felt completley and uterly numb and nothing could hurt me or upset me everything just kinda went by the same and no one really noticed or cared. my friend told me one day that she was cutting herself because she has some serious things wrong with her and how shes depressed and i told her how i was feeling and she just didnt really care or thats how it felt anyway and i just started thinking that everyone thought i was being over dramatic about everything, so i stopped telling people how i was and when i was upset and it just stayed the same or got worse. but then i told my closest friend and she started working extra hard to make me happier more and more and things started looking up, i was getting happier and happier and i started to feel again, but one night when i was out with my friends and i was having a really good time and everything was good until two of my friends walked off, we asked them what was wrong and they justed blanked us and then one of them came up too us and started saying how he hates us and how were all suts and slags and selfish and stupid and not important and horrible bitches. we hadnt done anything wrong and then he said that it was manly me who they hated the most and how i was a stupid idiot that no one likes or cares about and i realised that the happier you are then the harder you can get hurt. i was really bad for a few days and i couldnt eat or sleep and i just spent the next day crying and looking at the emails they had sent me saying how i was stupid and selfish and ignorant and nothing. but eventaly i started to go numb again. i told my friend again and she keeps trying to pull me out when im down before i get too upset, but i cant walk around my school with out seeing one of them and everytime i do i think of how good friends we were and then the emails and just wanting to cry but not being able too. tomorrow night will be the first time i would have had to actually be in a room with either of them, at my youth club, seeings though i hvant seen them since that night and i dont know if i should confront them if they try talking to me again or just walk off. ill probably just cry. but how do i stop myself from getting numb again?


Answer:

If your friends are treating you like this, they obviously are not very good friends and you deserve a lot better than them! I know its hard because you feel they were your close friends but you dont need girls like these! you deserve better friends who appreciate you! Try not to blame yourself, you are not in the wrong and dont deserve this! It could be that they are upset about something else and are taking it out on you so you could try and talk to them about it? But try not to think about them and remember you deserve someone who is goood to you and cares about you loads <3

— 3 years ago
Anonymous asked: im 5"6 and around 8 stone 8-10 lbs (122 pounds) i feel like im fat and i look fat when i look in the mirror, sometimes i hate my body so much that i cant stop crying, im always on a diet and dont think i'v eaton more than 1700 cal since Christmas. is 122 pounds fat or is it all in my mind?


Answer:

Firstly Id like to mention that in no way is this fat, with a bmi of 19.7 you technically are in the healthy weight zone, but again this is not at all neccessery in how you feel. Feeling as though you are fat should not be something you should have to feel on a daily basis and if its affecting the amount your eating i would suggest maybe you talk to someone about this before it develops any further! But most of all please try and remember its not your outside appearance that matters, you are beautiful inside and thats what counts. whether your fat or thin or short or tall, you are your own person and unique, this in itself makes you beautiful and individual! We are here if you ever want to talk and i hope one day you begin to love yourself for who you are! You are beautiful <3 xx

— 3 years ago