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So... There's a guy. We were together on a trip, and i was feeling sad. He hugged me and he said that i could count on him, tell him everything, he would hug me when i want, he was my friend and he said "I mean it, really". I was suprised, because i thought he is fellingless person, he doesn't care about anything and anyone. We have never been close, we were just classmates. I noticed he changed a lot lately but that was... weird. So we were alone in his room, he hugged me, comfort me, complement me, talk to me. He NEVER does that! Another classmate, his friend told him he liked me, and later he didnt, and he said to him "You need to decide, she is sensitive" That's what my spy said :). I dont know what to think. Lately, he is staring at me a lot, and a few moths ago, he told my friend he liked me. He has formspring(that's sth, where you can ask questions) and there were questions about the prettiest legs, ass and style. He answered that i have the prettiest legs, ass and style, and that i am a 'top model'. What should i do? Should i trust him? Does he really want to be friends or maybe sth more?

Fri, 22 Apr 2011 23:28:00 +0100

I thinkk you should give it a goo :) If you like him and it appears he likes you there is nothing to lose :) You might aswell try it out and see what happens! Just be careful! Guys are never easyy and you can get hurt! So look after yourself! Why don’t you talk to him about it? xx

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I'm trying not to cut, I'm really trying! For everyone else around me, but the truth is I don't know if it's what I want. I don't know whether I really want to stop! It's the only thing that makes me feel a release! And I deserve the pain and ugly scars.. but I live my life wanting others to be proud of me, and when I couldn't lose enough weight to be perfect to them all I cut. But now if I stop cutting I feel theyll all be so proudd, and I may start to be perfect again! But its for them. Just them and not for me, and that scares me! I know it won't ever work or last if i'm doing it for other people. Im sorry I don't really know what im even asking here but I havent said this to anyone and I just needed to get it off my chest! I don't know what to do! While im cut free for so many days im making them proud, but when I relapse which I know I will, im just ruining everything and making them more disappointed than they ever were to begin with!

Mon, 11 Apr 2011 23:16:00 +0100

Don’t do it for others do it for yourself, do you really want to be cutting for the rest of your life? becasue i dont think you do. People will always be proud of you, i am SOO proud of you, becasue you are trying! Thats such an amazing start. Strive to make people proud of you for something you do, not something you don’t do. Put all of this into something positive, find another coping method. Its normal to get hit with guilt and upset when you relapse, but relapse are part of recovary, if you get past that it shows you can fight it, you can beat this! :) We believe it you. Don’t dwell on bad things, strive towards the good, and turn your life around for the better. You can do this, we know you can <3

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i want to die.

Sat, 09 Apr 2011 16:14:00 +0100

Think, why do you want to die? Is that reason worth it?

How would the people you left behind feel? what would it be like if you were in there position? How would you feel?

Think about all the things you would miss out of, having a family getting ajob, becoming a grandmother/grandfather

Think about the person that would have to find you!

Please stay strong, we are always here for you, you can beat this! it will be ok! Take care and look after yourself!

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I just wanted to ask you something, I've been feeling REALLY horrible about myself lately. I changed schools, i don't have any close friends anymore. I feel like crying all the time. I've gained like 20 pounds because of all of this. I take adderall when i don't need to just to feel happy for one hour or so. I've stopped doing fun things and talking to guys. I don't know why i feel like this and its horrible. I don't know what to do anymore. advice, I came to you because i have noone else to go to.

Mon, 04 Apr 2011 18:00:10 +0100

Im so sorry you feel like this, no one deserves too! If it is due to a change in school that you cant make friends you could try join some of the school clubs or some school activity in order to make friends and meet new people! Please dont worry about the weight gain, this doesnt define you or mean anything! You are beautiful no matter what you werigh and what you look like! If you dont need the adderall i wouldnt suggest taking it as this may just make you worse if not adviced and constant use! We are always here for you if you ever need to talk!! We are on here and on our personal blogs if you would rather talk to someone more personally! Our personal blogs are on a page of the blog! I hope things get better soon!! xx

i find things hard to cope with right now, i havent really had a straight forward childhood and i have got to the stage where i scratch myself so much i break the skin and basically cut myself.. i just cant help it and i dont know what to do with myselfff.

Thu, 31 Mar 2011 19:07:03 +0100

Try talking things through with somebody. Although you may not think it talking things through with somebody can really help lift a weight off of your chest. Even if its just a friend it is a start :) Bottling it up will get you nowhere, you need to let it all out, deal with it and get on with the future. As for the self harm, there are things you can try like snapping an elastic band to your wrist or squeezing an ice cube. A better idea would be to try channel that energy and frustration into something worthwhile. Find a distraction, get a stress ball, have a cold shower or go for a run :) Someething along those lines. Take care and i hope things get better for you.

i'm wearing glasses, but i dont want to wear it. I asked my mum about contacts, and she said no ! What can i do to convince her ?

Mon, 21 Mar 2011 21:56:52 +0000

As a glasses wearer myself I have had this same issue, it does really depend on your age and the reasons behind your mum saying no! Start by explaining to her how wearing glasses makes you feel! If they make you feel like shit tell her this, she wont want you to feel anything less than beautiful even though the glasses dont change your beauty! Tell her how responsible you are, and how youll look after them and only wear them for short times! I actually started with dailies a few days a month when going to partys or special occsasions and once my mum had seen how i loved them i worked on her from there so you could try that? hope you get them xx

i recently went through a very hard time in my life, for no particular reason, i hadnt lost any body or anything like that, infact everything was the same really except that my friends were having some really hard times and i was arguing a lot with my mum who works as an air hostess so she goes away a lot and always has. but i just felt completley and uterly numb and nothing could hurt me or upset me everything just kinda went by the same and no one really noticed or cared. my friend told me one day that she was cutting herself because she has some serious things wrong with her and how shes depressed and i told her how i was feeling and she just didnt really care or thats how it felt anyway and i just started thinking that everyone thought i was being over dramatic about everything, so i stopped telling people how i was and when i was upset and it just stayed the same or got worse. but then i told my closest friend and she started working extra hard to make me happier more and more and things started looking up, i was getting happier and happier and i started to feel again, but one night when i was out with my friends and i was having a really good time and everything was good until two of my friends walked off, we asked them what was wrong and they justed blanked us and then one of them came up too us and started saying how he hates us and how were all suts and slags and selfish and stupid and not important and horrible bitches. we hadnt done anything wrong and then he said that it was manly me who they hated the most and how i was a stupid idiot that no one likes or cares about and i realised that the happier you are then the harder you can get hurt. i was really bad for a few days and i couldnt eat or sleep and i just spent the next day crying and looking at the emails they had sent me saying how i was stupid and selfish and ignorant and nothing. but eventaly i started to go numb again. i told my friend again and she keeps trying to pull me out when im down before i get too upset, but i cant walk around my school with out seeing one of them and everytime i do i think of how good friends we were and then the emails and just wanting to cry but not being able too. tomorrow night will be the first time i would have had to actually be in a room with either of them, at my youth club, seeings though i hvant seen them since that night and i dont know if i should confront them if they try talking to me again or just walk off. ill probably just cry. but how do i stop myself from getting numb again?

Fri, 18 Mar 2011 16:47:21 +0000

If your friends are treating you like this, they obviously are not very good friends and you deserve a lot better than them! I know its hard because you feel they were your close friends but you dont need girls like these! you deserve better friends who appreciate you! Try not to blame yourself, you are not in the wrong and dont deserve this! It could be that they are upset about something else and are taking it out on you so you could try and talk to them about it? But try not to think about them and remember you deserve someone who is goood to you and cares about you loads <3

im 5"6 and around 8 stone 8-10 lbs (122 pounds) i feel like im fat and i look fat when i look in the mirror, sometimes i hate my body so much that i cant stop crying, im always on a diet and dont think i'v eaton more than 1700 cal since Christmas. is 122 pounds fat or is it all in my mind?

Thu, 17 Mar 2011 20:32:11 +0000

Firstly Id like to mention that in no way is this fat, with a bmi of 19.7 you technically are in the healthy weight zone, but again this is not at all neccessery in how you feel. Feeling as though you are fat should not be something you should have to feel on a daily basis and if its affecting the amount your eating i would suggest maybe you talk to someone about this before it develops any further! But most of all please try and remember its not your outside appearance that matters, you are beautiful inside and thats what counts. whether your fat or thin or short or tall, you are your own person and unique, this in itself makes you beautiful and individual! We are here if you ever want to talk and i hope one day you begin to love yourself for who you are! You are beautiful <3 xx

I feel so ugly and fat and disgusting... Everyone makes fun of me, I'm a beast. Every guy that I've ever liked has broken my heart. No one wants me. And this is the truth.
You can't help me. No one can.

Tue, 15 Mar 2011 20:56:00 +0000

You are right, i cant help you, You know why? because you have nothing to change. Its the people around you. The people making fun of you, fuck them. Honestly you dont need them in your life, they should mean nothing to you so what they are saying doesnt matter. Every guy you have ever been with has obviously never been the right guy for you, they werent good enough. If there were the guy for you, they will find they way back to you. You just havent found ‘your guy yet’. And i’ll let you know, not many people have! As for thinking you are ugly, fat and disgusting. GIRL YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. You know why? because there is only one of you, you cannot compare your self to anyone else becasue they are different people. Beauty isnt defined by what is on the outside its who we are inside. You should believe you are beautiful because we believe you are <3 Take care. You are not alone.

Ok, so i have a problem. My friend started to be friends with persons we didn't like in 7th grade. I thought it's not going to be anything serious, but now they are "BFF's". I don't like them, i don't feel good in their company, i feel like'third wheel', I don't suit to their group, and i am giving her subtle sings about it. But now she told them that we can be in one room on a trip !! At first, they were supposed to be with others, so are we, but she wanted to be with them. I am this kind of person who can't say no, so i agreed, but now i feel bad about it and i think it's high time for me to handle this. What should i do? I know, i should talk to her, but how? What should I say? I don't want to argue with her or finish our friendship, because when we are alone, she is really cool.

Tue, 15 Mar 2011 18:02:26 +0000

First off this all depends on whether the girl has done anything wrong or if there is a specific reason behind your dislike for her. If it is simply a jealousy thing wich is common amongst girls then id suggest you try become friends with the girl also or recognise that your best friend may have other friends but not let that ruin your friendship with each other. But if there is a genuine reason for your dislike then i suggest you talk to your friend properly aand tell her honestly your reasons behing this dislike. If you dont feel comfotable sharing a room with her is there no-one else you could possibly share a room with instead? This could mean that you have a better trip and also show your friend the extent to which you dislike her new friend. Try not to criticise her new friend completely as this could just cause her to become defensive and result in an argument between you and your friend instead, which is not what we want! I would suggest you talk to your friend and also try to get to know this new girl aswell, she may not be as bad as you think once you get to know her and people can chance from 7th grade! I really hope this all works out, but if she falls out with you over this then she isnt as gooda friend as you thought <3 If shes worth your friendship hopefully she’ll understand and try and make it so she can be friends with both of you without upsetting either one of you xxx

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They told me it was just a dulled down form of depression.
They told me it wouldn't get any worse.
It's getting worse.

Mon, 14 Mar 2011 16:00:18 +0000

Is this some form of psychiatrist or councillor? It was unfair of them ever to tell you how you you could end up feeling, but maybe you should talk to them? They want to help you whoever they are! I think you should speak to someone before it gets too out of hand, or before it takes your life.. <3 You are so beautiful and rather than think about what they said in the past try talking to them and theyll realise that you need help.. We are always here for you if you ever want to talk.. good luck sweety xx

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Sun, 13 Mar 2011 22:27:56 +0000

Hey. I'm kind of having a few problems at the moment. I barely eat, sleep, smile, i'm just feeling too low to care properly about that kind of stuff. The main one is probably depression and selfharm. I don't know if i should tell my psychologist that I cut myself, I know I probably should but i'm so ashamed by it, i've never told anyone. Will they tell my parents? I'm just worried because I can't stop, but I know i'm just making myself more ill. Its getting so hard to hide too. And then there's the other problem with eating. Sure I eat enough, but I'm so obsessed with my weight now. I don't understand why, I weigh 6 stone and I feel like such a failure whenever I eat. I don't know what to do, I feel like I need to tell this to someone before I blow up, there's just so much building up, I can't handle it, I don't know what to do :(

Sat, 12 Mar 2011 01:43:26 +0000

Ok, well the things you are talking about here are all side ‘problems’ of depression. I think although it may be hard telling your psychologist would be the best thing to do. They need to know in order for you to be treated properly. The fact that you have recognised that if you continue this way you will become very ill, is a good one, Hold on to that and reach out for help :) I am not sure whether your parents would be informed, six stone is very low and i think you need help before it could turn extrembly serious. Just breath and take one thing at a time, dont bombard yourself with too much. Take one thing and deal with it, then the next and the next. One thing at a time ok? You can do this :) you are beautiful and strong, you are not alone.

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i want to die.

i find things hard to cope with right now, i havent really had a straight forward childhood and i have got to the stage where i scratch myself so much i break the skin and basically cut myself.. i just cant help it and i dont know what to do with myselfff.

i'm wearing glasses, but i dont want to wear it. I asked my mum about contacts, and she said no ! What can i do to convince her ?

im 5"6 and around 8 stone 8-10 lbs (122 pounds) i feel like im fat and i look fat when i look in the mirror, sometimes i hate my body so much that i cant stop crying, im always on a diet and dont think i'v eaton more than 1700 cal since Christmas. is 122 pounds fat or is it all in my mind?

I feel so ugly and fat and disgusting... Everyone makes fun of me, I'm a beast. Every guy that I've ever liked has broken my heart. No one wants me. And this is the truth. You can't help me. No one can.

They told me it was just a dulled down form of depression. They told me it wouldn't get any worse. It's getting worse.

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I feel so ugly and fat and disgusting... Everyone makes fun of me, I'm a beast. Every guy that I've ever liked has broken my heart. No one wants me. And this is the truth.
You can't help me. No one can.

They told me it was just a dulled down form of depression.
They told me it wouldn't get any worse.
It's getting worse.